The failures and victories on my faith journey as a wife and mother.

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Brokenness

Pain is a very funny thing. Most people don't like pain, and go to great lengths to avoid it. But pain is a signal. It lets us know that something is off, sensitive, broken, or in need of adjusting.  It amazing that pain can give us great insight, when otherwise we would be unaware of the problem.

When I was in my sophomore year of high school, I had gone to winter camp the weekend of my birthday. Camp Cedar Crest was covered in snow, it was really quite beautiful. My cousin, who is 6 months older than I, had brought his snowboard and was enjoying the various steep inclines of the property. I had asked for a turn, and he agreed. No big deal, right? Except that I was ignorant of the needs for proper snowboarding. So when he offer me the board, but no boots, I really had no idea what I was getting myself into. 

During free-time that afternoon, I had an ridiculous amount of fun. I even considered looking into this snowboarding thing when I got home. It was after several hours of dragging the board up and down the hills that I finally retired, so that I might thaw out before dinner and the evening session. As my legs returned to a normal temperature, I began to realize the true impact of "snowboarding" all day in a pair of mere running shoes. Needless to say, my ankle swelled, and was accompanied by horrific pain. I spent the rest of camp and my sweet 16th birthday on crutches. Pathetic, I know...

It was the safe, warm, and non-threatening environment of the cabin that allowed me to feel and recognize the pain I was in. It was only then that I was able to start making things better, and work towards the healing of my poor ankle. Granted, the injury was self induced. But I had allowed someone else to lead me to believe that snowboarding in sneakers was a great idea. 

So why do I mention my horribly embarrassing "snowboarding" story? Well, last night I had a "safe, warm, and non-threatening environment" reveal that I still have a lot of pain. Stephen and I were sitting in Tim's office discussing the youth ministry. There should be nothing traumatic about that, but it was. I felt like I needed to guard myself, defend my reasonings, like I was under attack. But I wasn't. Not in the least bit. It just God using a meeting to reveal that there are some very broken places in my life. I have known that this area was sensitive, I'm not that oblivious. Honestly, I thought I was only suffering from a broken relationship, I didn't know that I had let it affect my relationships with other leaders as well.

On January 4, Pastor Dennis gave the message "Better & Better & Better- A "Better" Year" and he spoke on the better including our finances, attitudes and expectations. Part of the expectations included the healing of broken areas in our lives. I really didn't think that this part was going to apply to me. But the "safe, warm, and non-threatening environment" proved that I so desperately need healing. I have let it go for so long, years in fact. I have ignore the subtle hints of it in conversation. I have created countless excuses for my disconnected attitude. Better finances, better attitudes, and better expectations. I have got to keep reminding myself...

This year, in the few weeks of its existence, has already proven to be interesting. At the moment, I am unemployed and our family is going to be moving, again. Of all the areas that I would want Jesus to intervene for me, this was not the place I was expecting. But it is the right time. Hopefully, I won't be on crutches too long. My ankle only needed a couple of weeks, and not that I am one to rush healing. But this year is going to be better. I can't wait to see all that it has in store.

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